Thirsty, Much?

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Confession time. I just found out this weekend that there is a new definition for ‘thirsty’.  It was explained to me by my 16 year old daughter as a person who does anything to get (or keep) a relationship with a girl/boy.  Thirsty could also be used for a person who is jealous of someone else’s relationship. For example, a girl who has sex on the first date is now called thirsty, a girl who allows her man to date other people is said to be thirsty or a guy who buys affection from a girl is also thirsty.

 Then there’s the woman who seduces her friend’s husband because she’s jealous of what they had together is thirsty.  As I look around with my new found definition of thirsty, I see thirstiness everywhere, in music, movies, television and in the workplace.  Why are we so thirsty? Have we always been so thirsty?

On my way home from Thanksgiving break, I drove from Atlanta to Fayetteville, North Carolina.  I listened to the radio in both directions because I found that it keeps me more alert than listening to my music without the radio announcements.   As I listened, I heard song after song about thirsty people.  This one popular song (I don’t know who sings it) was about a girl telling a dude that she’s happy to see him only 3-4 days a week and that it was alright with her if he was with his real girlfriend the rest of the week. Really!  I have to admit, the song had a catchy beat and the singer had a decent voice, but the more I listened to it, the more I wondered how many girls actually drink this particular flavor of kool-aid.  Is monogamy obsolete and is this now the status quo in relationships?

I know with the amount of music that’s being released today, there’s bound to be a genre that caters to thirsty people. I’m choosing to believe that on my drive last Wednesday, the DJs made an agreement to play songs that spoke to all the thirsty people.  On the other hand, when they weren’t playing the thirsty songs, Cardi B. was killing it with every other song on the radio.  If I hadn’t heard of Cardi B. before this weekend, I have now and believe me, the girl is NOT thirsty. What she lacks in finesse, she makes up for it with enough bravado that makes the mother in me wonder, “Who hurt this child and where can I find him?”

Don’t get me wrong, we had our thirsty songs back in the day. Y’all remember when Shirley called Barbara?  Both of them were thirsty.  We can’t forget about TLC’s Creep, “I love my man with all honesty, but I know he’s cheating on me.” You would say she’s quenching her thirst with, “So I creep”. And the ultimate thirsty song of my generation is Shirley Murdock’s “As We Lay”. They both belonged to someone else, but decided to sleep the night away.  Really?! Shirley talkin’ about she would never want to hurt his wife.  Thirsty, Thirsty, Thirsty!  I guess we have always been thirsty.

What I’d like to know though is how to address or do we address our thirsty friends and family members? Do you say something to that person who is bending over backwards to impress someone who doesn’t give 2 flying flips about him/her? Do you say something to your thirsty best friend who you know is cheating on his wife? What do you do when your thirsty sister is seeing a married man? To bring it a little closer to home: What do you do when that thirsty married co-worker flirts with you? He’s fine too.  What do you do when your wife’s thirsty friend gives you the eye (you know, that eye)?

One thing we could do about all this thirstiness is ignore it.  After all, thirstiness has been around since biblical days.  Y’all remember Genesis, Chapter 39?  Potipher’s wife was big time thirsty when she tried to seduce Joseph.  In this story, we know Joseph resisted her advances and did not yield to temptation. For ourselves, perhaps that is what we could aspire to do: Not yield to temptation.  What about our friends and family, though – should we do or say anything?

Whenever you decide to (or if you decide to) discuss this issue, it’s important to evaluate your own motives first. Are you coming from a place of love or a place of judgement? Either way, the thirsty person you’re speaking to will know the difference.  If you’re acting out of love, speak from the heart and say, “I’m telling you this because I love you.” However, if you’re feeling judgmental or even conflicted by the person’s actions,  OR if you’re doing the same thing, it may be best not to say anything at all.   Most of us have moral compasses and sometimes it gets off course.  Having someone speak to us in a loving way may help to get us get back on track.   You should also consider that if the shoe were on the other foot, you would probably want someone to slap you back to reality (figuratively speaking, of course).

As far as being thirsty, we all have been there. If you haven’t, I celebrate you.  I think being thirsty is part of growing up process. Unfortunately, some people never outgrow their thirst and keep looking and looking for the right thirst quencher.

Friends, we can talk all day about how thirsty this person is or I could go on forever telling you how thirsty I was at one point in my life, but can we talk for a moment about the bonafide thirst quencher? I didn’t mean to go here, but I had to go here because He’s tried and true.  Just in case, you don’t know, I’m talking about Jesus.  In John 4:14, Jesus said, “But whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal like.”

You may be sitting there asking yourself what its like drinking from this water.  Since you asked, let me tell you my experience. When you drink of the Living Water, you experience a peace that surpasses all understanding.  You’ll realize that you are sufficient in Christ sufficiency, and no longer seek the validation of others. You’ll feel a love that you can’t get from this person or that person because they won’t be able to love you like God loves you. When you drink of This Water, people will be running after you to figure out why you’re not chasing after them. They’ll try  to find out why you’re looking so refreshed and satisfied.  Yeah, that’s how you look and feel when your thirst is quenched with the Living Water.

Are you thirsty? If so, let me introduce you to my BIG friend. 

P.S. If you can relate to this story, let me know in the comments below. I’d love to hear your take on all this thirstiness.

P.S.S I hope I didn’t offend anyone with the thirsty guy at the top.  He just looked……..real thirsty 🙂

Cheers!